Eveline Maria Smith 2008 |
Professional Listener is based on the premise that what most people would really like is, "Just to be listened to." To be a trusted healer and teacher requires being a good listener. It is my observation that although everyone’s intention and desire is to be a good listener there aren’t many people that are. I read somewhere that researchers say; "individuals listen only to the first three words of any statement. Instead of listening people think about their response. To be a good listener, takes discipline and concentration."
People often approach me with their personal stories about family, personal problems, business challenges and everyday life. I create a safe space to verbally express without being judged. I honor each individual's path and their process with gentle compassion I assist them in realizing their own answers. The experience of being heard can open the door for profound release and healing.
"A deep silence revives the listening and the speaking of those two who meet on the riverbank" —Rumi
‘New Path, New Beginning’ |
This collage both in the creating process and now feels reflective of Professional Listener. ‘New Path, New Beginning’
"HADO creates words
Words are the vibrations of nature
Therefore beautiful words create beautiful nature
Ugly words create ugly nature
This is the root of the Universe" —Masaru Emoto
Despite the instant communications available to everyone it is the one-on-one, personal, connection that is being missed.
Namaste~ the God in me sees the God in you.....
To have clear communication:
It is important not to let assumption, fear and preconceived notions get in the way of expressing clearly. Often the same words mean different things to different people due to differences in age, culture, region. And having very specific meaning both positive and negative, associated to words and situations conditioned from life experiences.
The ability to communicate effectively creates successful relationships! Make it a point not to get caught up in drama or anger. Be open to the perspectives of others. Choosing to see the other's point of view; free of attachment and judgment invites compassion and understanding when walking a mile in someone else's shoes. For people to heal fully and create peace in all areas of life they must first find the way of kindness when talking through their assumptions and disagreements. Walking away and shunning in anger never solves anything. A responsible Listener recognizes their own anger. Before reacting breathe in stillness that you may speak from a calm rationality and not from a state of rage! Clear, honest, loving communication is sustained by our positive actions toward one another every day and just as it is with love, peace knows no color, no bounds, no limitations. Just an open mind, heart and soul willing to embrace all that is life!
Love Thyself and Honor these Four Nobel Truths (((((For nature, human beings, and vibrations)))))
1. Kutai: The real state of (((((our))))) world is suffering [the starting point of the problem]
2. Jittai: The cause of suffering is no light [what causes suffering]
3. Mettai: The ideal state in this world is called Nirvana [realm you attain by solving your problem]
4. Dotai: The path to attain the realm of enlightenment [means to solve your problem]
In communicating truth in kindness, love and gratitude through our thoughts and words has the power to transform our experiences and worldview from one of fear and separation to one rooted in the highest expression of compassion and oneness. We can cultivate this harmony and peace in our hearts and minds through our positive intentions and actions.
Please view short movie: Neale Donald Walsch - Teach Your Children Well
Remember it takes [two] to communicate so take time to tune into the other person’s feelings and body language such as; are they on guard or relaxed, sad or happy? Most of the issues that arise are the result of communication problems. And these issues arise because the individuals involved are not expressing with clarity or someone refuses to listen or someone refuses to communicate all together. This later behavior may extend beyond the one on one relationship with friends and family members out into the community at large to include associates, members in religions and organizations that practice the life-alienating behavior commonly referenced as excommunication, disfellowship or shunning.
"The Sufi poet Rumi once wrote, ‘Out beyond ideas of wrong doing and right doing, there is a field. I’ll meet you there.’
Life-alienating communication, however, traps us in a world of ideas about rightness and wrongness – a world of judgments; it is a language rich with words that classify and dichotomize people and their actions. When we speak this language, we judge others and their behavior while preoccupying ourselves with who's good, bad, normal, abnormal, responsible, irresponsible, smart, ignorant, etc..."-MBR Non Violent Communication
Suggested Reading: Nonviolent COMMUNICATION A Language of Compassion by Marshall B. Rosenberg, Ph.D. www.cnvc.org
Agendas:
Those tricky little nudges that sneak into all of our every day dealings and dialogue. People say things all the time to please others, to smooth things over, to get our own way and avoid rejection.
Agendas present themselves in all relationships; family, friends, work colleagues, even our partners and our children receive praise or are scolded with a dash of agenda strewn in for good measure!
Too often we confuse agenda with desire. And keep in mind that agenda may also come in the form of lack of desire, not being able to say no, driven by fear and guilt in the pursuit to protect one's back.
Agenda is the little demon we feed every time we think "What's in this for ME?" When we operate from this mindset, we lose our attraction with the Light as the contentment and success we seek moves further out of reach. The Key is to elevate that selfish thought into a sharing thought. How can this interaction help you, me, and us for the highest good of all?" Let us all choose in kind to shine our light (((((Just Because))))) in love and gratitude with no strings attached.
Light is everything the ego seeks in abundance; good health, love, happiness, wealth, self-assurance, inspiration, and so much more…..
No Agenda Affirmation: ”My motivation of self-interest, ulterior motives, and hidden agendas give way to pure acts of friendship, unconditional love, and giving. When I take myself out of the way, I create a space for true and loving friends, joy and fulfillment.”
Judgment is rooted in fear:
If an individual did not fear something they wouldn’t feel the need to label it as being right or wrong… good or evil. They would simply make their choice whether to experience or not to experience something. How does one let go of old conditioning in fear and judgment? First you must quit judging and labeling yourself and others. Also, realize just by viewing your life better or worse in this very moment compared to what it was at another time is self-judgment. When you encounter someone saying things that you find in appropriate, or when you know they're wrong forget your need to be right. Your desire is to be peaceful-not to be right, hurt, angry, or resentful.
People are constantly comparing themselves to others and their state of well-being crashes the very moment someone criticizes or opposes them. Are you aware that expectation is a form of judgment? Every time we set an expectation that things will be a certain way, we are doing so from the fear that they will not be. These dramas then play out in judgment battles between Right and Wrong….. Good and Evil….. Light and Dark.....
When you feel offended, you're practicing judgment. You judge someone else to be stupid, insensitive, rude, arrogant, inconsiderate, or foolish, and then you find yourself upset and offended by their conduct. Not being offended is a way of saying, "I have control over how I'm going to feel, and I choose to feel peaceful regardless of what I observe going on." What you may not realize is that when you judge another person, you do not define them. You define yourself as someone who needs to judge others.
Who sets your standards? Who gives you instruction? Instructing you that it is better to be and to do this way than to be or to do that way? This instruction is always from someone outside of yourself; a parent, a teacher, a friend, a belief system, a partner, society at large. Who is setting your limitations? Why are you inviting this interference? The point of these questions is to get you to think! To realize if your choices and opinions are based on what resonates with your [own] philosophy and experience; or are your choices and opinions based simply on what you’ve been told.
Please view short movie: Children Learn What They Live http://www.InspiringThots.net/movie/children-learn.php
Self judgment leads to judging others; when individuals label words, thoughts, deeds, as being Right or Wrong….. Good or Evil they are projecting their own hidden standards. It's Ego that demands the world and all the people in it be as you think they should be. Your higher self refuses to be anything but peaceful, and sees the world as it is, not as Ego would like it to be. When you respond with hatred to hate directed at you, you've become part of the problem, which is hatred, rather than part of the solution, which is love. Love is without resentment and readily offers forgiveness. Love and forgiveness will inspire you to work at what you are for, rather than what you are against. If you're against hatred and violence you'll fight it with your own brand of hatred and violence. If you're for love and peace, you'll bring those energies to the presence of violence, and ultimately dissolve the hatred. There are no mistakes, only choices and having made your choice you are always free to make another.
Remember just as no one can define you with their judgments, neither do you have the privilege of defining others. When you stop judging and simply become an observer, you will come to know the inner peace that I experience and communicate on SAG’s web pages. Connecting with one’s inner peace frees you from the negative energy of resentment that you may live and experience a life of contentment and harmony. It is the law of cause and effect.....A peaceful person attracts peaceful energy.
Shine your (((((Light))))) and be"Who You Are!"
Everything has spirit, and it radiates spiritual vibration that reflects its trait. It is called Hado [meaning vibrations or wave motion] Hado Is the subtle vibrations of all things. Our human body is the Micro Cosmos that reflects the Cosmos. Everything that is manifested in this physical world is God’s intention because in God’s world there is no good or bad label—it is our own perception of what is good or bad. With this knowledge and spiritual blessing comes loving empowerment. We each create that which we focus our thoughts, our words and our actions on. It is the law of cause and effect! Compassionate behavior and kind words create positive Hado and healing. Violent behavior and harsh words create negative Hado. Keep in mind when you are communicating positive behavior "BUT" your thoughts and mind’s dialogue are negative – focusing on old patterns, stuff and behavior [be it your own or others] you set in motion experiences in hurt, disappointment and illness.
Please view this short movie: James Arthur Ray - Spiritual
Forgiveness is the most healing thing that you can do to remove the low energies of resentment and revenge from your life completely.
Creating a positive life in perfect health, joy and peace you must first let go of the old patterns, stuff and behavior. It isn’t enough to just go through the motions…you must do it with all of your being; your thoughts, emotions, actions and do so with passion.
We practice forgiveness for two reasons: The first is to let others know that you no longer wish to be in a state of anger and hostility with that person. The second is to be free from the self-defeating energy of resentment.
Please realize that when you reflect on every individual that has inflicted harm; betrayed, cheated, defrauded, hurt or said unkind things to you or about you. These experiences are nothing more than your thoughts that you carry around with you. And these thoughts of resentment, anger, and hatred represent slow, debilitating energies that disempower you. Once you release them, you experience peace.
When I pause to Reflect on my life….. On Life! It appears we all have individuals here on our path in need of forgiving for our own good. It’s pretty much a given that no one goes through life without being and feeling hurt in some way. I can’t help wondering what it takes before people awaken to the realization that holding grudges and harboring resentments is the very attitude and behavior that clouds their ability to love, to feel good and to see the beauty in all things. Holding onto all that hurt, disappointment and resentment is a heavy load to carry around. The weight of such burdens will eventually destroy one's well being and peace of mind.
Forgiveness is indeed a series of courageous little steps with the first step being most arduous in letting go of the (((((HURT!))))) I read somewhere once that when people pretend they’ve forgiven someone because they’ve been instructed to and or in their heart they know that they should, it’s like candying a rotten apple — it may look perfect on the outside but on the inside it’s still a rotten apple. A wise observation and what a great visual this is!
We all are gifted with free will to consciously choose how we will act. When we choose to be positive and kind in our thoughts, emotions, words and actions we bring joy and comfort to others — we bring it to ourselves as well. Genuine kindness always comes from-the-heart and is a genuine reflection of who we really are — beings of love. It is when we consciously choose to be positive; to think, to speak and to act with love from the very core of our being that our doing so creates ever widening gratitude ripples of love, kindness, respect in our relationships, community and the world. I hope you will join me in choosing to live in an attitude of love and kindness communicating who we really are (((((Beings of Love!)))))
“Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.” ~ Leo Buscaglia, 20th century teacher of Love
"Letting Go" visualization:
With love, light and joy in your heart visualize a colorful bouquet of balloons…..Tied to each string are of your old patterns, stuff and behavior. Now as you stand in a wide open meadow holding this beautiful balloon bouquet; you feel peace, in joy and relaxed. As you release and let go of your colorful bouquet of balloons embrace your emotions [letting them be what they need to be] as you witness their beautiful colors dance on the gentle breeze….. One by one the clear blue sky enfolds them…..Out of sight and out of mind. Allowing you freedom to focus and create positive changes in your life with responsible freedom in love and gratitude.
I do believe the most significant gift in healing that each of us can do for Mankind, for Mother Earth and for our Universe is to know, to accept, love unconditionally, honor and appreciate "Who You Are!"
See that you are perfect as you are. Appreciate your radiance….. Your beauty. Walk proud…..Proud of who you are; your beautiful body, holding your head high, full of poise, full of alertness you feel connected to the universe and embrace all that is life.
Appreciate your mind and its ability to understand…..To recognize the beauty of your soul acknowledging the ways you truly desire to be open and a kind, compassionate Being.
Physically and spiritually you shine brilliant like a star. You radiate and vibrate in love and gratitude…Today and everyday love yourself for being who you are. You are beautiful.
Affirmative Prayer: "I am enough, exactly as I am. I love everything about myself. I love and respect my body, my mind and my soul. I embrace and honor myself and my place in this magical, wondrous universe. I am love and gratitude. I am peace. I am one with all that is.....I am."
Please view this short movie: Beauty of a Woman: http://www.InspiringThots.net/movie/beauty-tips.php
"Well Being…" in perfect health:
In reading the following realize what and how you personally maintain your well being in perfect health is fully your choice and responsibility. The important point and what matters is that you discover what works for you — then do it!
This is my personal experience and sharing in what is working for me. To be in perfect health and well being at every age and stage in life has always been my intention and motive. I greet each new day with love, gratitude, joy and anticipation. I see each day as a new beginning in all situations, people, and in all that is life. I am centered in balance and in peace.
I meditate daily and I want to share with you the Zazen Exercise I learned from Sotetsu Matsumura [Buddhist Monk] at the 3rd Hado Instruction School in Hawaii..... The posture of Zazen:
1. Controlling the Physical Body the spine should be straight so that the line connecting the nose and the navel intersects the floor squarely, feeling the top of the head supporting the ceiling. Keeping the face straight ahead, the jaw is drawn just a little. The gaze is cast downward at the floor 1 to 2 meter forward with the eyes half closed. Put the left hand over the length of the finger. The thumb tips come together to form a circular shape, relaxed to support each other.
2. Controlling the Breathing. Unlike that of martial arts or singing, breathe only through the nose. Breathe out slowly and firmly. Breathed out entirely, breathe in fresh air through the nose quietly without making a sound. It is important to breathe out first. Imagine deep breathing rather than abdominal breathing.
3. Controlling the Mind in the case of Zazen-Shikan, bring your attention around Tanden, lower part of abdomen, or around the nose when you get distracted. Then count the number of breath in your mind. Breathing out and in makes one count. Continue to count till 100. If your count to 100, then back to 1. If you forget where you are, go back to 1 at once without hesitating. Just count numbers, don't think anything else. Breathe firmly and feel as if you are breathing not only with the lungs but also through the pores, imagining continuous respiration.
Our words may differ, however our numbers are universal. Mathematics is God's language. God communicates through sound on water and God's medium is water.....Together we make a difference.
In maintaining my personal center in balance diet plays a significant role! Blood is created by the food we take in and it is the weakest part IF the body gives indication of illness. Dr. Emoto has proven water is the carrier of vibration and illness begins by imbalance in our vibration, therefore, I make a point to drink lots of good water daily 6 - 10 glasses (((((Water I Thank You…..Water I Love You.....Water I Respect You!))))) Also I drink green tea and a variety of teas. I make a point when possible to shop 100% organic. I eat small portions spaced throughout my day, mainly protein and complex carbs such as; fresh water fish, dark greens and some fruits such as blueberries. And I enjoy a glass of good red wine with my dinner.
Studies reflect that the majority of the health issues so prevalent in today’s society are the result of dehydration. And the consumption of processed and fast foods. So I make a point to avoid processed foods including sugars and flours especially white flour. On occasion I use Agave Nectar a natural sweetener and I only use extra virgin olive oil and 100% raw organic coconut oil. For any of my health and vitamin questions I make a point to contact naturopaths Binder & Kelley www.thehealthyplace.com We are more than 70% water! Water drops communicate with each other. Water responds to our thoughts, to our words and to our prayers. Water is a good carrier of all minerals.....I truly appreciate and enjoy drinking good water. (((((Water I Thank You…..Water I Love You.....Water I Respect You!)))))
I also listen to good music…..I find myself drawn to lyrics and music created by gifted, independent musicians that are professional. Those I connect with create with great passion….. their work is often profound providing healing, hope and inspiration to move forward and onward here on our path.
I have never been the athletic type. My idea of a swim is a soak in a hot mineral spring or a hot tub…walking on a white sandy beach with the ocean’s ebb and flow. What I truly enjoy and embrace is Being and Walking in nature. My daily routine is such; Tai Chi Chih [movement meditation] 15-20 minutes, treadmill 30 minutes 3 days a week and as often as possible, weather permitting, I walk my furry friend, Rosie 3 plus miles on uneven ground.
I want to share with you a reference made to walking on uneven ground in the beautiful book, 'Visions of the Goddess' by Courtney Milne and Sherrill Miller. "Our journey in quest of the Goddess has taken us to many unexpected places. One sojourn led to a small farmhouse in the back country of southwestern Saskatchewan. There, a man named Ted Douglas told us to, "walk on the earth," reminiscent of the Navajo ritual of Walking in Beauty, takes us back to the beginning of civilization, when humans first walked in the upright position. This integrates our spine, muscles, and body organs, and keeps us in physiological balance. Perhaps this is the most ancient body memory we have, and is a way of bonding with the most primitive part of ourselves. If we believe in the collective unconscious, then our goal is to link ourselves to the experience and wisdom of all of our ancestors. We need to "remember" this experience to reconnect it in our bodies, in our minds and in our hearts. It is a true reminder to be present in everything we do."
Dr. Masaru Emoto’s words from his beautiful book titled ‘The Hidden Messages in Water.’
"What the world needs now is gratitude. We must begin by learning what it means to have enough. We need to feel gratitude for having been born on a planet so rich in nature, and gratitude for the water that makes our life possible."
"Do we really know how wonderful it is to be able to breathe a big breath of clean air? If you open your eyes, you will see that the world is full of so much that deserves your gratitude."
"When you have become the embodiment of gratitude, think about how pure the water that fills your body will be. When this happens, you yourself will be a beautiful, shining crystal of light."
Dr. Masaru Emoto’s series "Messages from Water" proves the power of prayer changes the water; therefore, it will change the world. The water's messages communicate the law of cause and effect. That our positive thoughts, words, intentions, actions, affirmative prayer, being in love and gratitude makes the positive difference in all that is life...our universe and world. Hard mathematics and physics proves Dr. Emoto's research is accurate! www.hado.net www.masaru-emoto.net
Accolades
"My experiences of Maria through the mediums of T'ai Chi Chih, Feng Shui, Color and Collage have been very enriching. She is committed to her spiritual path and is reliable, responsible, gentle and good-natured to be with. She always contributes energetically in a group as her intentions are honest and pure. The world is a better, more peaceful place with Eveline Maria Smith here!" Dyana Sangraal Entrepreneur/CHI RISING, North Carolina
"Dear Mom, I wanted to write you a little note to say thank you for being a great mom & friend. I want you and everyone that happens to read this to know how very special you are to me. Our relationship is a place to find safety and comfort. I appreciate and love that I can be myself and know I am accepted unconditionally. Mom you're fun, lighthearted, caring, sympathetic, nurturing and understanding. You know when to offer advice and when to listen. Thank you for always being available to listen, hear, guide and validate my needs. You have been so helpful to me and you know just how to find a rainbow behind every cloud. I appreciate our great friendship. I love you!" Heidi Whyte, Idaho
“In tough, desperate moments, one needs gentle, loving support. Maria was able to extend this motherly compassion to me in my most desperate time through her heart, open ears, and patience.” -Luana Gerardis, California
"Maria: Your website looks great! Your pictures look great! YOU look great! I especially like the "professional listener" page. It was a lot for me to take in at once so I printed it. I look forward to reviewing it and fully taking it in. The segment about "all judgment is rooted in fear" really struck a cord with me. Simply making a choice to experience or not to experience something is quite a powerful statement! I fear making big decisions and find it surfacing more as I look for a new job. So, now I'm processing what you wrote and hoping it will help me make a decision as I move forward in my life. Thank you as always," -Janelle Dauenhauer, Montana
I was introduced to this wonderful organization by Hado Instructor, Anna Webb www.womenforwomen.org Women for Women International, a fantastic program that links women to women in war ravaged countries around the world. It was Mother Theresa who said, "Do not wait for leaders. Do it alone, person to person."
For information, to schedule a phone or private session contact Eveline Maria Smith via maria@soulartgallery.com
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