Healing Energy Therapy ~ Professional Listener
Holistic and Spiritual Mentor 

Eveline Maria Smith 2008

Professional Listener is based on the premise that what most people would really like is, "Just to be listened to." To be a trusted healer and teacher requires being a good listener. It is my observation that although everyone’s intention and desire is to be a good listener there aren’t many people that are. I read somewhere that researchers say; "individuals listen only to the first three words of any statement. Instead of listening people think about their response. To be a good listener, takes discipline and concentration."

People often approach me with their personal stories about family, personal problems, business challenges and everyday life. I create a safe space to verbally express without being judged. I honor each individual's path and their process with gentle compassion I assist them in realizing their own answers.  The experience of being heard can open the door for profound release and healing.

"A deep silence revives the listening and the speaking of those two who meet on the riverbank" —Rumi

‘New Path, New Beginning’

This collage both in the creating process and now feels reflective of Professional Listener. ‘New Path, New Beginning’

"HADO creates words. Words are the vibrations of nature, therefore, beautiful words create beautiful nature. Ugly words create ugly nature. This is the root of the Universe"—Masaru Emoto

Despite the instant communications available to everyone it is the one-on-one, personal, connection that is being missed. 

To have clear communication:

It is important not to let assumption, fear and preconceived notions get in the way of expressing clearly. Often the same words mean different things to different people due to differences in age, culture, region. And having very specific meaning both positive and negative, associated to words and situations conditioned from life experiences.

The ability to communicate effectively creates successful relationships!  Make it a point not to get caught up in drama or anger. Be open to the perspectives of others. Choosing to see the other's point of view; free of attachment and judgment invites compassion and understanding when walking a mile in someone else's shoes. For people to heal fully and create peace in all areas of life they must first find the way of kindness when talking through their assumptions and disagreements. Walking away and shunning in anger never solves anything. A responsible Listener recognizes their own anger. Before reacting breathe in stillness that you may speak from a calm rationality and not from a state of rage! Clear, honest, loving communication is sustained by our positive actions toward one another every day and just as it is with love, peace knows no color, no bounds, no limitations. Just an open mind, heart and soul willing to embrace all that is life!

In communicating truth in kindness, love and gratitude through our thoughts and words has the power to transform our experiences and worldview from one of fear and separation to one rooted in the highest expression of compassion and oneness. We can cultivate this harmony and peace in our hearts and minds through our positive intentions and actions.

Remember it takes [two] to communicate so take time to tune into the other person’s feelings and body language such as; are they on guard or relaxed, sad or happy? Most of the issues that arise are the result of communication problems. And these issues arise because the individuals involved are not expressing with clarity or someone refuses to listen or someone refuses to communicate all together. This later behavior may extend beyond the one on one relationship with friends and family members out into the community at large to include associates, members in religions and organizations that practice the life-alienating behavior commonly referenced as excommunication, disfellowship or shunning.

The Sufi poet Rumi once wrote, ‘Out beyond ideas of wrong doing and right doing, there is a field. I’ll meet you there.’

"Life-alienating communication, however, traps us in a world of ideas about rightness and wrongness – a world of judgments; it is a language rich with words that classify and dichotomize people and their actions. When we speak this language, we judge others and their behavior while preoccupying ourselves with who's good, bad, normal, abnormal, responsible, irresponsible, smart, ignorant, etc..." Marshall B. Rosenberg, Ph.D. www.cnvc.org   

Agendas:
Those tricky little nudges that sneak into all of our every day dealings and dialogue. People say things all the time to please others, to smooth things over, to get our own way and avoid rejection.

Agendas present themselves in all relationships; family, friends, work colleagues, even our partners and our children receive praise or are scolded with a dash of agenda strewn in for good measure! 

Too often we confuse agenda with desire. And keep in mind that agenda may also come in the form of lack of desire, not being able to say no, driven by fear and guilt in the pursuit to protect one's back. 

Agenda is the little demon we feed every time we think "What's in this for ME?" When we operate from this mindset, we lose our attraction with the Light as the contentment and success we seek moves further out of reach. The Key is to elevate that selfish thought into a sharing thought. How can this interaction help you, me, and us for the highest good of all?" Let us all choose in kind to shine our light (((((Just Because))))) in love and gratitude with no strings attached.

Light is everything the ego seeks in abundance; good health, love, happiness, wealth, self-assurance, inspiration, and so much more…..

No Agenda Affirmation: ”My motivation of self-interest, ulterior motives, and hidden agendas give way to pure acts of friendship, unconditional love, and giving. When I take myself out of the way, I create a space for true and loving friends, joy and fulfillment.”

Judgment is rooted in fear:
If an individual did not fear something they wouldn’t feel the need to label it as being right or wrong… good or evil. They would simply make their choice whether to experience or not to experience something. How does one let go of old conditioning in fear and judgment? First you must quit judging and labeling yourself and others. Also, realize just by viewing your life better or worse in this very moment compared to what it was at another time is self-judgment. When you encounter someone saying things that you find in appropriate, or when you know they're wrong forget your need to be right. Your desire is to be peaceful-not to be right, hurt, angry, or resentful. 

When you respond with hatred to hate directed at you, you've become part of the problem, which is hatred, rather than part of the solution, which is love. Love is without resentment and readily offers forgiveness. Love and forgiveness will inspire you to work at what you are for, rather than what you are against. If you're against hatred and violence you'll fight it with your own brand of hatred and violence. If you're for love and peace, you'll bring those energies to the presence of violence, and ultimately dissolve the hatred. There are no mistakes, only choices and having made your choice you are always free to make another.

Remember just as no one can define you with their judgments, neither do you have the privilege of defining others. When you stop judging and simply become an observer, you will come to know the inner peace that I experience and communicate on SAG’s web pages. Connecting with one’s inner peace frees you from the negative energy of resentment that you may live and experience a life of contentment and harmony. It is the law of cause and effect.....A peaceful person attracts peaceful energy.

Accolades

"My experiences of Maria through the mediums of T'ai Chi Chih, Feng Shui, Color and Collage have been very enriching. She is committed to her spiritual path and is reliable, responsible, gentle and good-natured to be with. She always contributes energetically in a group as her intentions are honest and pure. The world is a better, more peaceful place with Eveline Maria Smith here!" Dyana Sangraal  Entrepreneur/CHI RISING, North Carolina

"Dear Mom, I wanted to write you a little note to say thank you for being a great mom & friend. I want you and everyone that happens to read this to know how very special you are to me. Our relationship is a place to find safety and comfort. I appreciate and love that I can be myself and know I am accepted unconditionally. Mom you're fun, lighthearted, caring, sympathetic, nurturing and understanding. You know when to offer advice and when to listen. Thank you for always being available to listen, hear, guide and validate my needs. You have been so helpful to me and you know just how to find a rainbow behind every cloud. I appreciate our great friendship. I love you!" Heidi Whyte, Idaho

“In tough, desperate moments, one needs gentle, loving support.  Maria was able to extend this motherly compassion to me in my most desperate time through her heart, open ears, and patience.” -Luana Gerardis, CA

"Maria: Your website looks great! Your pictures look great! YOU look great! I especially like the "professional listener" page. It was a lot for me to take in at once so I printed it. I look forward to reviewing it and fully taking it in. The segment about "all judgment is rooted in fear" really struck a cord with me. Simply making a choice to experience or not to experience something is quite a powerful statement! I fear making big decisions and find it surfacing more as I look for a new job. So, now I'm processing what you wrote and hoping it will help me make a decision as I move forward in my life. Thank you as always," -Janelle Dauenhauer, Montana

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